'I buried my parents one day after the other' - Ebola mourners learn how to grieve safely

BBCNyamurongo cemetery in Bunia, a city in north-eastern Democratic Republic of Congo that is the epicentre of the current Ebola outbreak, is much busier than usual."Today is the sixth time I have come to the cemetery," says Joel Lonza Makumbu as he explains how the virus has devastated his family and community."Yesterday I buried my father. Today I have come to say goodbye to my mother."As he fills the grave with soil, he says he has also lost three sisters and a brother-in-law to Ebola."I want to say for all people [to hear] that Ebola is true."It is a message he is desperate to communicate as the authorities try to tackle misinformation around the disease, which has so far killed almost 200 people in the last few months, mainly in the province of Ituri, of which Bunia is the capital.The current outbreak has been caused by a rare species of Ebola known as Bundibugyo, which kills about a quarter of those infected.Ebola is transmitted through contact with infected bodily fluids, including blood, urine, vomit, semen and breast milk. Stringent protocols must be followed to prevent it from spreading - and safe burials are vital.One of several gravediggers hard at work at the cemetery tells me that 15 families were currently attending burials - but there is none of the usual crowds, ceremony, singing and other rituals.One traditional practice that is now strongly discouraged is the washing of dead bodies by family members before burial.Many fresh graves can be seen at Nyamurongo cemeteryIt is a tricky and sensitive job to get grieving families to understand why these changes need to be made.Julienne Anoko, an anthropologist with the UN's World Health Organisation (WHO), says mourners would usually dress a dead body in smart clothes while funeral rites could last several days.She explains that most communities in Ituri believe a dead person needs to look their best as they are "travelling from one world to the other world - to the world of the ancestors"."Women are dressed in a wedding dress with make-up… They sing, they celebrate that person, because it's a journey, it's not the end of the life," she tells the BBC.But in the case of someone who has died of Ebola, they must immediately be put in a leak-proof body bag for burial.Families' needsMaria Munoz-Bertrand, public health emergency co-ordinator for the International Federation of the Red Cross and Red Crescent (IFRC), says efforts are underway to meet families' needs.In Ituri, this means coffins are used, with the body bag placed inside. The coffin has a few transparent panels on the sides to allow mourners to see inside.Another change has been to body bags, which now have clear film at the top so the face inside can be seen."We need to be very close to the communities and engage with them very closely and make sure that they understand what's going on, they're informed and they consent," says Munoz-Bertrand."If the family asks for something special to be included in the procedure, as long as it respects the infection prevention and control measures, and it doesn't put anyone at risk, we will try to accommodate the wishes of the family as much as possible, because we understand that it's a very difficult time for families."We want to be as supportive as possible, while at the same time protecting them, the community, and our volunteers."I joined a team of IFRC volunteers as they went to an Ebola treatment centre at a hospital in Bunia to pick up a body for burial.Family members sat by the roadside waiting to accompany their deceased kin to the cemetery.One of the groups included a weeping mother who had lost her child.A tent just outside the treatment centre acts as a temporary morgue or transit zone where we see health workers in full personal protective equipment (PPE) take a body bag and place and seal it inside a coffin.They go back to the hospital, their path disinfected as they retreat. Then the IFRC team, made up of six people also in full protective gear, goes inside the tent from the opposite side to pick up the body and take it to a truck.It contains the body of a 34-year-old mother of four, whose father and brother-in-law quietly observe the process from a distance."This is a big blow for us," says her father, Simone Nyal."She was ill for just one week before she succumbed. She has left us her four children - I don't know how we will cope."At the cemetery, her mother and sister wait by the newly dug grave. In under 10 minutes, the burial is complete. The volunteers decontaminate once again before departing, leaving three gravediggers to cover it with soil.Anoko, the WHO anthropologist, says it takes patience to help a community at a time like this. Her team listens, consoles, offers condolences to the families, and tries to humanise the situation."We negotiate to make the family accept the unacceptable. Sometimes it may take three days, but we negotiate, and I use the knowledge of their culture," she says.The most challenging scenario, she tells me, has been negotiating the burial of pregnant women.The community believes that a pregnant woman should not be buried with the foetus inside her, needing to "travel light" into the afterlife.This means the foetus is often removed and either buried separately or in the same grave as the mother, she says.But that would involve interaction with a lot of fluids, the very agent of transmission of Ebola, so Anoko reminds them how ancestors in their culture have foresight.

'I buried my parents one day after the other' - Ebola mourners learn how to grieve safely

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