Ozonḓu chronicles: Men Who Give Money And Why We Love Them

Can we talk about men who give money?

Before the feminists start warming up their keyboards, relax. I am not saying women cannot make their own money. Most of us are already doing that. We wake up, go to work, pay rent, buy groceries, send money home, and somehow still survive on two-minute noodles during month-end.

What I am saying is this: there is something very attractive about a man who sees a problem and says, “Hey, let me help you with that.”

Very attractive.

You are there stressing about your car service. Before you can even finish your sentence, he says, “How much is it? I’ll sort it out.”

My brother, suddenly you are looking very handsome.

The thing is, it is not even always about the money. It is the gesture. It is the fact that somebody looked at your life and thought, “How can I make things easier for this person?”

Because let me tell you, struggle is not romantic.

Nobody wants to be sitting there saying, “We are building together,” while both of you are sharing one packet of Simba chips and emotional damage.

A generous man creates peace.

You mention your phone is acting up. Next thing, he sends money.

You say you are having a rough month. He says, “Check your account.”

You don’t even ask. He just sees.

Now that’s the kind of observation skills we support.

And no, before somebody says it, appreciating generosity does not make a woman a gold digger.

By that logic, men who appreciate beautiful women are appearance diggers.

We all appreciate things.

Women appreciate effort. Some men show effort through quality time. Some through words. Some through acts of service. Others show it through financial provision.

Nothing wrong with that.

As for me, I like him spending… I like someone who doesn’t wait for me to ask because Miss Independent me would rather swallow the pavement than ask.

In fact, many women who are financially independent still melt when a man says, “I got this.”

Why?

Because for once, somebody is carrying the load with you.

For once, you don’t have to be the strong one.

For once, somebody is saying, “Rest a little. Let me handle it.”

And honestly, in this economy?

That is romance.

A man doesn’t become attractive because he has money. A man becomes attractive because he is generous with what he has.

Big difference.

We’ve all met people with money who hold onto every cent like their bank account is a national secret.

Then there are those men who naturally enjoy taking care of people. They buy lunch. They send transport money. They pay for dinner without making it look like they have donated a kidney.

Those men?

May your businesses prosper.

May your salaries increase.

May your investments multiply.

Because some of us are praying for the continued success of generous men everywhere.

Amen.