Surviving negativity

By Hilary MuyundaRevenge is a waste of time, most people think that they will be better or satisfied by getting back at someone that hurt them, but that is not the case, the only result you will get from that is hurting yourself even more, the more you keep up on avenging is the deeper you dig your own pain. Sometimes it is good to let go of the things that hinder us from attaining our peace and build ourselves to become even better people.In life, it is okay to accept that we have once been used, accept that we have been lied to, accept that we have been humiliated, acceptance does not mean you are weak, denial does. We live in a world full of people who are deviant, people who come from dysfunctional homes, and people who have chosen to take the wrong path, by satisfying themselves at the expense of others. That should not make us become like them, regardless of whether we are victims of their wrong doings or friends with such people.Many people think being kind is stupid and they take advantage of that, but let us not be the motivators of their wickedness, but the inspirational sources of their lost souls. If someone has wronged you, do not do the same to them, but make them see that what they did is wrong, and eventually they will apologise.Forgiveness is the best key to a happy life, we are all not perfect, and we all make mistakes, therefore let us try to forgive those who have wronged us, as we want others to forgive us for wronging them. Life is all about accepting and learning from our mistakes. In addition to that, over-generalizing things is not the best way to go, that is one mistake that people make, and they tend to attribute their bad experiences caused by one person on everyone else, on the basis of their sex, tribe or level of physical appearance. If someone has caused you pain, do not attribute that the next person you will meet will do the same too. People might come from the same tribe, might have the same level of physical appearance or come from the same sex, but that does not mean that they have the same ways of perceiving things, they can end up being totally different. Please let us stop making false attributions and over-generalising things.One thing that I have discovered is that the majority of people have the inability to adapt to a change, to them ‘’trying something new is like signing a death sentence’’, that is how fearful they are on starting something new. It is better moving out of a relationship that makes you unhappy, than holding on to such a relationship because you fear being alone, it is better to move to a new town or country, to get a job than staying in your hometown unemployed, it is better to take a risk, with a motive of ameliorating your life, than doing nothing at all. Let us try and change the type of mind set we have, and make the best of the life that we were given by our heavenly father, let us try new things, by breaking the shell that is caging us and preventing us from doing so. Life is not easy; we will always come across obstacles that hinder us from attaining our goals, but that should not be an excuse to justify giving up on our goals. Giving up is not a solution but a mistake, especially when it becomes a habit, such a decision is very adverse, because all it will do is worsen your situation and complicate things. Confidence is the way to go, being confident will add more opportunities for you in life, and make you become more optimistic. Let us not make our mistakes become our failures but our motivations that will improve and encourage us to do better in future. Another interesting fact is that, no matter how good you can be and how successful you are, there will always be people who will always be eager and desperate to see you fall, they will always try in every best possible way to discourage you, either by tarnishing your name, using you and encouraging you to do bad things, but it is up to us to prove to them that we are far greater than their wicked ways. Our accomplishments are far greater than their ways of bringing us down, the road we have taken is far rougher than the road they have chosen to take, and our strength and faith are far greater than their bad advice.Negativity comes in different forms, such as stereotyping, ridicule, jealousy and peer pressure, the only way to prevent ourselves from been drowned by such is to set a goal and focus on that goal (vision), devise principles on how to achieve that goal, such as accountability, honesty, self-discipline and integrity. Let us stop feeding ourselves with negative thoughts and continue having a positive perspective on life, and as well as refuse to be subdued by negativity. Hilary Muyunda is a third year student studying towards Bachelor of Arts in Clinical Psychology at the University of Namibia

Surviving negativity

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