It is better to have loved and lost

Michelline Nawatises The worst feeling is being lied to in your face and then being lied to again about being lied to. Honesty is hard to find in a person you love, but wanting their loyalty makes you love that person even more. But why love someone you know will hurt you? Why hope for what you know is impossible? When you get your hopes up in love and friendship, and you are then shut down by the person who you least thought would hurt you, it feels as if your world is coming to an end. Toy have that feeling of emptiness and the new, negative you sees nothing good in life anymore. Words like lies, disloyalty, hate and disappointment roam in one’s mind and that’s all you can think about. Even though you try so hard to forget about all those feelings of hurt, you can’t seem to forget about all you used to have and you have that craving to have that love in your life all over again. The words love and happiness don’t seem to mean anything; they don’t fit in with what you are feeling, and they have suddenly faded away. Once they slip away you can’t find them anymore and even though you look for them desperately, it feels like you never had them in the first place and that they were just a part of your imagination. But what if you find these words all over again? What if they seem to find their way back to you? Would you want them back? Why fall into the same trap all over again? Could this be any different from last time? When everything seems to be getting better and you do find these words all over again, they stab you in the back in the middle of your recovery. How could they have betrayed you, when you thought everything was going to be okay? This lie within a lie gets bigger and bigger, with different stories, excuses from different people. Who do you trust? It’s hard to decide between believing either what your close friends and everyone around you is telling you or believing the opposite from that one person you thought you loved. Nothing seems to match what you actually think of the situation; nothing matches with what you feel or with what is real. You analyse what is going on, but all your conclusions don’t make sense. It all ended so soon, so randomly, leaving all kinds of possibilities and questions in your mind. It all seemed like a dream - more like a nightmare that you are now waking away from - but the thought of it ruined your day and all the days that lay ahead. You seem to be the only one who cared and who still wants to make a change, but no one seems to care or notice anymore. Everything is back to ‘normal’ for everyone else - everyone else except for you. Each and every single disappointment or feeling of hurt is a lesson learned. They only makes you stronger and more cautious. Knowing what happened and what could happen prepares you for good and bad times in the future. This helps for the next time, but there might not even be a next time. Even though your questions were never answered and everyone seems to have forgotten, the feelings you once had and still have will stay with you forever. Bad events throughout your life will bring people down and the good ones ahead will repay your trust. Bad times will keep coming, but each time you are stronger and you can view these events in a different way, a better way. The ride was worthwhile it lasted and you have to move on with the strength you gained from your experience. The worst impacts in your life will make you endure better events ahead. This will lead to the best time of your life. With every lesson learned, every feeling you felt, these all upgrade your way of looking at your life and refresh what you know more about yourself and your surroundings. As for falling in love, it is very simple, but falling out of love is never an easy mission.michelline@myzone.com.na

It is better to have loved and lost

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It is better to have loved and lost

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