Aunty Nangy

I am scared

I am a girl, 17, and I am dating a boy aged 26. We have sex but we do not use condoms. Am I going to fall pregnant because he released sperm into my body? Can you tell me please Aunty Nangy.

I cannot tell whether you will fall pregnant or not. If you had sex around the days you ovulate you will fall pregnant. At 17, you know the consequences of having unprotected sex and I don’t know why you had unprotected sex without a condom if you did not want to fall pregnant. It is like asking me if you will not die if you to dive into a river that you know is full of crocodiles. You are stressing because you are not ready to have a baby. If you are lucky to have your period then never have it live and direct again please.

I want him to break my virginity

I am a 15-year-old girl dating a guy who is 19 years old. I want him to break my virginity. What must I do? Please Auntie, help me.

Some teenagers get wild and lose their senses at this age of puberty. You are only 15 years old and you are desperate to lose your virginity to a teenage boy who will not be able to look after you if things go terribly wrong. Please tell me why you are under pressure to lose your virginity? Look after yourself and treasure your cookie. Don’t dish it out like it’s a charity donation. I would advise you to keep your virginity and let the man who will marry you have the privilege to break the seal! You are following mob psychology and peer pressure wanting to do it because everyone else is doing it and that is dangerous.

I wanna have sex but he is far

I am a 17-year-old girl and I am hitting my books well. But, I am worried and wondering if I am ready to date and have sex. I have a boyfriend who is far away from me and I always feel I want to have sex but I don’t know what to do. Aunty, help me. I love him so much.

You are doing great by doing well and concentrating on your school work. You are very young and there is no need to be distracted by worrying about dating and sex. Concentrate on your studies and when you have finished studying and have your qualification, you will be more mature to understand about falling in love and sex. For your own information, men want women who are educated and the more educated you are the more men who will want to fall in love with you because most men think an intelligent and educated woman is sweeter. Stay on track.

I need good advice

I am a 24-year-old guy and I need good advice about love and living well with the one that I am going to love. I don’t have a child but I need a child one day with my wife when I am married. I also like romance so much honestly.

I am happy that you are asking for advice so that you will have a happy and stable marriage when you finally find the love of your life. While there is no ‘one size fits all’ advice for a perfect marriage, I strongly advise you to go to couples in a happy marriage that you know and are close to you and talk to them about how to be happy in a marriage, and how a couple can keep their romantic fire burning throughout their union. There are a lot of books about love and marriage in the book shops in town. Find time to go and scan the book shelves and get yourself one or two.

Do girls on depo have periods?

Does the girl menstruate or not when she is using family planning injection?

Some do not and some will, although then it is generally much milder. The only thing that she cannot do is to fall pregnant.

Afraid to go back home

I am 22 years old and a mother of a three-year old daughter. I have a problem with my mom. She doesn’t want me to date anymore. She used to beat me up whenever I went out of the house in the evening. Now I have been out of the house for five days and I didn’t tell her where I am. I am afraid to go back home. Please Aunty, help me. I don’t know what to do.

I always advise people not to be confrontational. I may advise you wrongly because I feel there is information that you have not given me. Out of respect I advise you to be an obedient child. You have a three-year-old child and by the look of things that child and you are being looked after by your mother. She obviously would not want you to have another child and that is why she is discouraging you to go out. I suggest that you go back home and apologise for disappearing without telling her where you are. Talk things over and please remember that parents will always want the best for their children.