Aunty Nangy

Will I have a baby?

Auntie Nangy

I am a 26-year-old woman. I was operated because of an ectopic pregnancy. My question is can I have a baby again in my life. I am confused.

I am not a medical doctor and my answer will be very general and it may not be of much help to you. I also do not understand why the doctor who did the operation did not explain to you the after-effects of the operation that he/she did on you. An ectopic pregnancy occurs when the fertilised egg attaches itself in the fallopian tube and not inside the uterus. Almost all ectopic pregnancies occur in the fallopian tube and are thus sometimes called tubal pregnancies. The fertilised egg cannot develop properly and it must be treated. When the fallopian tube ruptures it will be removed. A woman has two tubes so I understand that you can still have a baby but if both are removed then you cannot have babies.

My teenage friend sleeps around

Auntie Nangy

I have a 15-year-old best friend that loves boys and sleeps with them. I always advised her not to but, she thinks I am jealous. This week she told me that she slept with four guys during the weekend. What is the best advice to tell her?

I feel sad that you have a best friend who sleeps around with boys and does not respect the advice that you give her as a best friend. Good friendship to me is friendship that respects good advice coming from a friend among other things. She probably thinks that she has the sweetest cookie in town but soon and very soon she will live to regret her prostitution. It is very sad that at that tender age she is crazy about sex and is sleeping around like a bitch on heat that services the entire neighbourhood when it is on heat. Please tell your friend to come to her senses and go for spiritual cleansing because I think she has sex demons and she needs divine intervention. Not only is she a dishonest girl but she is a first-class health hazard considering that she can get sexually transmitted infections including Aids! I doubt if she is even using protection and these are the people who are a health hazard to other citizens. Also tell her about the risk of becoming a victim of sex and gender-based violence because one day she will be punished for promiscuity. Please stay out of it and I hope you will also realise that a friend who behaves like this is not a good friend.

I don’t want to disappoint my friends

Auntie Nangy

I am a 16-year-old boy who has a talent of singing but wants to concentrate on my school work. I am a member of a group of three and I don’t know how to tell the other members about my preference to my school work because I don’t want to disappoint them. Please help me or give me advice.

My advice to you is to do what you think is more important to you and which your school work is. Don’t be shy to be frank. Your education is more important to you and I encourage you score that goal. If you convince them to see your view point, I am sure they will understand your preferences.

In love with a 14-year-old

Auntie Nangy

I am a 25-year-old guy and I am dating a 14-year-girl. She used to tell me that she loves me. I am afraid of this and I don’t know what I can do to her. Please help me with this.

I am very disappointed that you are dating an underage teenager. You are actually committing a criminal offence and will be arrested for getting involved in a romantic relationship with a 14-year-old. I advise you not to touch or do anything with that child.

I have three boyfriends

Auntie Nangy

I am from Eenhana. I have three boyfriends. What can I do? Please help me.

I am not sure whether you mean three male friends or three sexual men that you are in a romantic relationship with. If you mean you are cheating three men then make your mind and decide who want to keep before it backfires on you. You are putting your life in danger. Every day we read about jealous men killing women because they suspected that the woman was cheating. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

My period lasted 18 days

Auntie Nangy

I am 18 years old and I have a problem with my periods. Last month I started on the 9th until the 27th. Is that normal? Auntie, please help me.

I think you need to see a doctor because the number of days that you were bleeding is way too long for a normal period. You may be having other medical problems so I suggest that you see a doctor as soon as possible.