Aunty Nangy
I don’t trust women anymore Dear Aunty Nangy. I am a 22-year-old man and I have a problem with today’s ladies. I have been dating a girl whom I trusted and she never looked like the cheating type to me. Now my girlfriend has been impregnated by someone else. That has made me lose hope and trust in women in my life. Aunty, help me please. You must not lose hope and label all women as untrustworthy. I think you have just been unlucky that all the women you have dated end up cheating on you but that does not mean all women cheat. Take your time and do not rush to fall in love with a woman. Percy Sledge sang a song “Take time to know her,” and that is the advice I am also giving you. If you are a Christian, the Bible says a good wife comes from the Lord so pray that you get a good and honest woman.
Addicted to drugs Aunty Nangy I have a problem. Please help me. I am addicted to smoking and whenever I get paid I just spend my money on drugs. Please I want to stop doing that and I have a baby boy I love so much and I don’t want to lose my baby’s mother. I really love them a lot. Please Aunty, help me. I am happy that you have realised that taking drugs is not good for you and your wellbeing. The first step that you need to take is to stop associating with friends that are taking drugs so that you are not exposed to them. I also advise you to seek help from organisations like Okonguarri psycho-therapeutic centre at Otjiwarongo and Etegameno Resource and Rehabilitation Centre (Erro) at Brakwater. You can call these two centres and get help at 067 697033 or 067 697036 and 061 250404.
I am not attracted to women
Auntie Nangy, I am in love with my friend and I have never slept with a woman in my life. Please help me Auntie.
Who you love is a personal choice. What is not clear is whether your friend is also in love with you. If so, then there is no problem to solve. If your sexual orientation is that, then maybe you need to find another partner with the same preference as yours.
Should I leave him?
Dear Auntie Nangy. I am 18 and I am dating a 20-year-old guy but now he doesn't text me anymore. I even texted him and still he didn't reply my text. I really love him.
It is difficult to say that he has fallen out of love because you did not say for how long he has gone silent. There are many reasons why he has not been communicating. Maybe he lost his phone or he is ill. It also appears that it is just one message that you wrote to him and he did not reply. What if the message did not reach him? I suggest that you call him to find out why he has gone quiet. There could be a genuine reason why he has not been in touch.
His mother does not like me
Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend. I love him so much and he also says that he loves me too. His mom doesn’t like me. What can I do? Help me please.
The problem is not with your boyfriend as you have said. The relationship is between the two of you and that his mother does not like you should not bother you. You are not in love with his mother so don’t lose sleep over that. You did not tell me why she does not like you. What is important is the fact that the two of you are in love. Just let your love flow to her son.
Is he using me?
Dear Aunty Nangy. I am 25 years old. I have a problem with my boyfriend. He doesn’t give me money to buy my stuff that I need. When I ask him, he always says he will give me next month. But he asks me to have sex with him. Should I leave him? Does he really love me or is he using me?
I think you do not understand what true love is and you are basing it on material benefits and that is a problem. You are giving me the impression that for sleeping with you expect your boyfriend to give you money in return and that is a problem. Many women have lost their lives in this country because the men who would have spent money on them turn violent and abusive when the women wanted to end the relationship. You can never judge true love by the amount of money you are given. Your understanding of true love is wrong and dangerous.
Addicted to drugs Aunty Nangy I have a problem. Please help me. I am addicted to smoking and whenever I get paid I just spend my money on drugs. Please I want to stop doing that and I have a baby boy I love so much and I don’t want to lose my baby’s mother. I really love them a lot. Please Aunty, help me. I am happy that you have realised that taking drugs is not good for you and your wellbeing. The first step that you need to take is to stop associating with friends that are taking drugs so that you are not exposed to them. I also advise you to seek help from organisations like Okonguarri psycho-therapeutic centre at Otjiwarongo and Etegameno Resource and Rehabilitation Centre (Erro) at Brakwater. You can call these two centres and get help at 067 697033 or 067 697036 and 061 250404.
I am not attracted to women
Auntie Nangy, I am in love with my friend and I have never slept with a woman in my life. Please help me Auntie.
Who you love is a personal choice. What is not clear is whether your friend is also in love with you. If so, then there is no problem to solve. If your sexual orientation is that, then maybe you need to find another partner with the same preference as yours.
Should I leave him?
Dear Auntie Nangy. I am 18 and I am dating a 20-year-old guy but now he doesn't text me anymore. I even texted him and still he didn't reply my text. I really love him.
It is difficult to say that he has fallen out of love because you did not say for how long he has gone silent. There are many reasons why he has not been communicating. Maybe he lost his phone or he is ill. It also appears that it is just one message that you wrote to him and he did not reply. What if the message did not reach him? I suggest that you call him to find out why he has gone quiet. There could be a genuine reason why he has not been in touch.
His mother does not like me
Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend. I love him so much and he also says that he loves me too. His mom doesn’t like me. What can I do? Help me please.
The problem is not with your boyfriend as you have said. The relationship is between the two of you and that his mother does not like you should not bother you. You are not in love with his mother so don’t lose sleep over that. You did not tell me why she does not like you. What is important is the fact that the two of you are in love. Just let your love flow to her son.
Is he using me?
Dear Aunty Nangy. I am 25 years old. I have a problem with my boyfriend. He doesn’t give me money to buy my stuff that I need. When I ask him, he always says he will give me next month. But he asks me to have sex with him. Should I leave him? Does he really love me or is he using me?
I think you do not understand what true love is and you are basing it on material benefits and that is a problem. You are giving me the impression that for sleeping with you expect your boyfriend to give you money in return and that is a problem. Many women have lost their lives in this country because the men who would have spent money on them turn violent and abusive when the women wanted to end the relationship. You can never judge true love by the amount of money you are given. Your understanding of true love is wrong and dangerous.
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