Auntie Nangy

In love with a married man Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 20-year-old girl and I am in love with a married man who has three children. He gives me everything I need and says he doesn't want to see me with other guys. He loves and cares for me but I know it will be a problem when his wife finds out. What can I do? I don't want to lose him, but I also don't want to hurt his wife. You cannot have it both ways. This man does not love you. He is using you. He is cheating on his wife, yet he does not want to see you with other guys? Someone is going to get hurt and it is definitely not him. His wife and children will be hurt when they find out and the chances are very good that you won't be able to keep your affair secret. You are also going to be hurt and I'm sure that you don't want to have your life turned upside down. You are young and you should be having a carefree and wonderful time and not have to worry about all the problems and heartache that such an affair will cause to a lot of people. Think carefully about the whole situation and make the right choice. She was the love of my life Dear Auntie Nangy, Please tell me what I can do to stop thinking about my child's mother. We have been separated for more than two years now and she has started seeing somebody else but I can't forget her. It makes me very sad. I tried seeing other girls, but the relationships never lasted long. She was the love of my life, I want her back. There is no way you can just stop thinking about someone, especially if you have loved that person with all your heart. To be sad about a relationship that has broken up is normal and the time it takes for a broken heart to heal also differs from person to person, but it is important that you realise it's over and start putting your life back together again. To get over someone is not easy. What I would advise you to do is to remember the good times you had and don't dwell on your pain. Take a firm decision that you must and can have that kind of love again. My friend wants me Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 17 and I am dating this guy called A, and B is my best friend, but he wants me too. The problem is I love A and he loves me too, but I don't want to lose my friend B. I don't know what to do. If you know for certain that you can never have a relationship other than friendship with B, you should tell him. If he feels he cannot be with you as a friend while you are in a relationship with someone you love, then it should be his choice to distance himself. As a friend he should not put you in a position to make a choice. Tell him that he is very important to you as a friend and that you don't want to lose him, but in the end it can only be his choice. I hope you can work something out as love and friendship are both equally precious. With a man I don't love Dear Auntie Nangy, I'm a lady of 28. I know why I ended up in the relationship I'm in now but I regret being with a man I don't love, we even have a baby. He loves me very much but I can't go on with this life being loved and not loving back. I'm tired of it, but on the other hand I don't want to hurt him. I am the only person he trusts and if I leave him it will break his heart. But I feel he doesn't deserve this and neither do I. What should I do auntie? My dear, I wish I could wave a magic wand and make things right but unfortunately life is not a fairy tale. You seem like such a good and decent person who just wants to do everything possible to prevent hurting people. But if you want to be happy you will have to make some very difficult choices. You should ask yourself the question: What will make ME happy and how will it influence the ones I love? Use this as a basis to make your decisions. Does no sex drive you crazy? Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 23-year-old guy and I am still a virgin. I feel horny all the time, but all the girls I approach say they already have partners. Somebody told me that if I don't have sex I will go crazy, is it true? No, you won't go crazy, but you might feel like it because you have all this sexual tension stored up inside of you. Your sex drive is an important part of who you are and sexual relief is important - even if you are a virgin. Your body will normally provide relief through nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). Masturbation is also a normal and natural way of sexual relief in the absence of actual sexual intercourse. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. You may choose to stay one until you meet that very special person or until you get married. You may also be afraid of making unwanted babies. You can have a perfectly good relationship without having sex. Maybe you are coming on too strong with the girls you approach and should just relax.

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