Auntie Nangy

I don’t want a baby

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am 23 year-old girl. I’m worried about myself… I finished my period on 24 April and I slept with my boyfriend on 2 May. We used condom but the condom burst. I am scared of getting pregnant. What must I do?

First of all you get yourself to the nearest pharmacy and you buy yourself a pregnancy test. If you don’t have the funds to buy a test, go to a clinic or hospital and get tested. From all of this I gather that you are not ready for a child because you are still young. Why don’t you abstain from sex until you are ready for what it bears? Talk to your partner about it. If you cannot stay away from sex perhaps you and your partner can go for family planning consultations. There are options including contraceptive pills that could help you. Also please be aware that there is more than a child that can come out of a condom burst. A child should not be your only worry; you can also contract STDs. Be careful next time.

Bleeding out of order

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am a 17-year-old girl and I have a problem with my period… they are not coming at the same time in each month. What must I do?

Menstrual flow changes due to what your body is feeling and going through. For instance, stress can cause your flow to be irregular. Certain contraceptives also mess up the flow and delay your period. If you are really concerned you must seek medical help immediately. It’s always better to be safe than to delay medical attention as it could be something that needs to be treated.

Unwanted attention

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am 17 and older men are attracted to me. What can I do for me not to fall in their traps?

You sound like a really smart young lady who knows how to make good decisions. First of all, ignore the hell out of them. If they continue pestering you then you tell an elder to tell them off. You are at a peak in your life where you need to be focused because one wrong move and you could be thrown off the wagon. This is the time for you to focus on school to pass your exams so you can get to varsity. Don’t let those men distract you or get to you.

To believe or not

Dear Auntie Nangy

I’m a 21-year-old lady in love with a 22-year-old guy. We have been in a relationship for five years and now, he tells me he loves me so much he will marry me. What do I do?

I think this is the sweetest thing ever. It is very rare to find young love like that of you and your partner these days. What you must do is live in the moment and take every day as it comes. Don’t consume your thoughts of being a wife already; you still have a lot to get through like varsity and getting a job. Once you have done that then you can think of getting married. Stay with your partner and see how far it goes.

Not trusted with her virginity

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am 16 and I have a girlfriend. We have dated for four months now but she told me she doesn’t trust anyone with her virginity… please help me?

You child, why are you even thinking of losing your virginity at 16? Where are your toy cars and your natural science books? First of all, you have only dated her for four months and that is still early for you to be sexually active. Secondly it is her right to say yes or no. If you force her you could be liable for rape so be careful with how you want to do this. She also has the right to choose with whom she can trust her virginity and if it’s not you then it is okay, it’s not the end of the world. Stick to your books for now, someone who trusts you will eventually come around.