Auntie Nangy 16 Feb
He disappeared
Dear Auntie Nangy, I'm a 20-year-old lady in love with a dude who is 24. The problem is, the guy went to Windhoek a long time ago but when I call him the phone is always off. I think he won't come back to me because he used to tell me so. Help me Auntie Nangy. What can I do?
Sometimes women live in denial and I think this is what you are doing right now. You said your boyfriend used to tell you that he will not come back and he has not come back. The fact that he has not communicated with you since he went to Windhoek to me is a clear sign that he is no longer interested in you or continuing with the relationship. Not only that, he has also changed his number so that you do not get in touch with him. All this is a very clear sign that he is no longer interested in you. I would advise you to forget about this man and move on. He does not deserve your love at all.
Pregnant and bleeding
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 21 years old and I am pregnant. After I had sex with my boyfriend I started bleeding and I don't know if the blood is from my body or the foetus? Please help me I'm confused.
I suggest that you go to the doctor and make sure there is no threatening reason for the bleeding and go now. Secondly, I think it could be your man is jamming too hard and he must just take it easy. While it is common to bleed after sex (spotting), if you start having heavy bleeding while pregnant then it is worrying and you must seek medical advice without delay. It is very unlikely the bleeding is coming from the foetus because your baby is in your womb and the penis does not reach the baby during intercourse.
He is cheating
Dear Auntie Nangy, My boyfriend is cheating. My boyfriend has lots of children with different mothers. Can I still be with him?
What is worrying is the fact that your man is promiscuous and you know that he is not honest with you. Auntie Nangy is very territorial and will not share my man. I would be lying to tell you to stick around this Casanova. The fact that he has fathered many kids with different women is a red light to tell you to be careful. He seems to be the type of man who does not get satisfaction from drinking from one hole but gets pleasure from changing women like pants in summer. He has fathered children with many women and that is risky behaviour and a good breeding ground to get sexually transmitted infections. It means he does not use protection and unprotected sex is a highway to HIV infections and other sexually transmitted diseases. Just leave this sex maniac and dedicate your love to someone else.
I still love my ex
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a married young man who is still in love with my daughter's mom. Can you please help me to erase my ex-girlfriend from my mind so that I can focus on my married life.
I am really surprised that you are married to someone while confessing that you are committing mental adultery with the woman you once had a relationship with and is the mother of your daughter. But I guess you are not the only one who goes through such a dilemma. However, imagine how the woman you married would feel if she were to discover this is how you feel. You gave me sketchy information and I may not be able to give you good advice. You did not say for instance how old you are and why you broke up. The fact that you are still haunted by the romance that you had with the other woman sounds like a complex issue and it may be difficult to overcome that feeling. If not managed well it may end up affecting your marriage. I hope the other woman that you left is not feeling the same way that you do because it would be disastrous. Does it mean you married a woman that you don't really love? Are you regretting the choice you made for a lifetime partner? All I can advise you to do is to try and forget about the mother of your daughter but I know it is no easy job because emotions can drive a person crazy and no one can give you medicine to treat that. It's all in your mind and you are the best person to discards those adulterous thoughts. Work on it.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I'm a 20-year-old lady in love with a dude who is 24. The problem is, the guy went to Windhoek a long time ago but when I call him the phone is always off. I think he won't come back to me because he used to tell me so. Help me Auntie Nangy. What can I do?
Sometimes women live in denial and I think this is what you are doing right now. You said your boyfriend used to tell you that he will not come back and he has not come back. The fact that he has not communicated with you since he went to Windhoek to me is a clear sign that he is no longer interested in you or continuing with the relationship. Not only that, he has also changed his number so that you do not get in touch with him. All this is a very clear sign that he is no longer interested in you. I would advise you to forget about this man and move on. He does not deserve your love at all.
Pregnant and bleeding
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 21 years old and I am pregnant. After I had sex with my boyfriend I started bleeding and I don't know if the blood is from my body or the foetus? Please help me I'm confused.
I suggest that you go to the doctor and make sure there is no threatening reason for the bleeding and go now. Secondly, I think it could be your man is jamming too hard and he must just take it easy. While it is common to bleed after sex (spotting), if you start having heavy bleeding while pregnant then it is worrying and you must seek medical advice without delay. It is very unlikely the bleeding is coming from the foetus because your baby is in your womb and the penis does not reach the baby during intercourse.
He is cheating
Dear Auntie Nangy, My boyfriend is cheating. My boyfriend has lots of children with different mothers. Can I still be with him?
What is worrying is the fact that your man is promiscuous and you know that he is not honest with you. Auntie Nangy is very territorial and will not share my man. I would be lying to tell you to stick around this Casanova. The fact that he has fathered many kids with different women is a red light to tell you to be careful. He seems to be the type of man who does not get satisfaction from drinking from one hole but gets pleasure from changing women like pants in summer. He has fathered children with many women and that is risky behaviour and a good breeding ground to get sexually transmitted infections. It means he does not use protection and unprotected sex is a highway to HIV infections and other sexually transmitted diseases. Just leave this sex maniac and dedicate your love to someone else.
I still love my ex
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a married young man who is still in love with my daughter's mom. Can you please help me to erase my ex-girlfriend from my mind so that I can focus on my married life.
I am really surprised that you are married to someone while confessing that you are committing mental adultery with the woman you once had a relationship with and is the mother of your daughter. But I guess you are not the only one who goes through such a dilemma. However, imagine how the woman you married would feel if she were to discover this is how you feel. You gave me sketchy information and I may not be able to give you good advice. You did not say for instance how old you are and why you broke up. The fact that you are still haunted by the romance that you had with the other woman sounds like a complex issue and it may be difficult to overcome that feeling. If not managed well it may end up affecting your marriage. I hope the other woman that you left is not feeling the same way that you do because it would be disastrous. Does it mean you married a woman that you don't really love? Are you regretting the choice you made for a lifetime partner? All I can advise you to do is to try and forget about the mother of your daughter but I know it is no easy job because emotions can drive a person crazy and no one can give you medicine to treat that. It's all in your mind and you are the best person to discards those adulterous thoughts. Work on it.
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