Find a purpose
Does putting off your neighbour's candle make yours light brighter?
30 January 2018 | Columns
*Daniel Lusianu is currently serving as an SRC executive secretary to the student parliament at the University of Namibia. He believes in sensitizing the youth to make well-thought out decisions.
Is making someone's life miserable a sign that you are the happiest and successful? Is judging and criticising someone a sign that you are perfect? Are those that appear to be strong always the strongest ones? Are you always badmouthing others to gain approval of your new friendship? Does talking about others in a negative way makes you feel positive? The point is, many people have not yet found their purpose in life. Many are empty and they want others to be empty too as if it is your fault that they are empty. Find a purpose and be true and faithful to your purpose.
Then there is this thing called jealousy. It destroys you from within. It robs you the power to see good in others. It steals your joy and laughter. It wants you to be better than others in everything. Who has lied to you that you are the best in everything and that you are the jack of all trades? Jealousy is a mental disease that makes one immune to the success of others. It makes you create an image of how you want the next person to be. Who has lied to you that people are supposed to think and behave the way you want them to be in your coconut mind? Who has informed you that you are supposed to control people and bring them to the level of your thinking?
When others succeed, you don’t want to believe because in your mind you have created a world of how they are supposed to be. Free yourself from this mental disease. You are robbing yourself of peace and sleep. People will never be the way you want them to be. You are abusing yourself to think that they will be. The next morning you wake up , you see your friend succeeding and your mind tells you it is not a reality. That you need wake up, stop dreaming and others are succeeding. Your jealousy has brought you to nothingness but enslaved you and others in your thought. You can only enslave someone in your mind but not their life. You are yet find a purpose in life and be true to it. Leave jealousy alone!
Then there is this another thing called anger. It sticks its nose out with pride. It does not help you to think properly. All it wants is the result to the cause. It makes you feel that you are innocent and that the next person deserve punishment. What makes you feel that you are an angel and the other person, a devil? All of a sudden it makes you feel like you are a perfect being. You can get angry all you want, however you should leave room for reasoning it might help you not to regret of the consequences of anger. Apply your mind to this. All I am asking you must put others before you. To be a tolerant person does not come by night or day. It comes through educating your mind to value, love, and care, support the next person.
Knowing your purpose means knowing your 'true self' as walking in your purpose fulfills you like nothing else can. Walking in your purpose sets you free from the need to compare or compete with other people because purpose is God-given, God has equipped you with everything you need to be able to carry it out and no one can do what you are purposed to do better than you. There is only one you.