Auntie Nangy

23 November 2018 | Columns

Confused



Dear Auntie Nangy, I am in love with a guy who I dated for about a month now. He told me that he has a girlfriend before we started dating. I love him very much but it seems like he is no longer interested. Luckily we did not have sex yet but I was planning to do that though. Should I let him know about my feelings or what should I do? I'm confused. Please help



It sounds like he is just not that into you. If he is not running after you then he doesn't want you. Do not beg for a man, it is sign of weakness and you are opening yourself up to abuse and heartache. This man can see that you are desperate and will only use you for sex and then he dumps you again. There are certainly other fish in the sea.



Scared of love



Dear Auntie Nangy, I am an 18-year-old boy and I have a problem. I have proposed a girl who is also 18 and she said no. What can I do so that she says yes?



No, means no. Do not force yourself on a woman, it is unacceptable and wrong. Leave her and move on. Find yourself another girl who is attracted to you.



Books and boys



Dear Auntie Nangy



Im a girl, 17, and I have a problem. When I am studying I always think about my boyfriend… is it fine like that Auntie?



Yes, my girl you have a serious boyfriend. You need to get that boyfriend out of your head as soon as possible otherwise you will fail and become a prostitute. And you are 17 for goodness sakes - you are not supposed to cry over boys at this age. The world is your oyster why do you want to blur your view with a man?



Young or not



Dear Auntie Nangy



I am 17 and I want to ask if it's wrong if I am to date a 21-year-old guy.



Child, you are a child. Stay away from grown men. This world is full of trauma and you want to add on to it? That man will not be a boyfriend - he will be your sugar daddy. You must be playing with dolls while he is no longer playing. Is that what you want? Don't you want to have fun with a guy your age, who takes you for ice-cream and whose first time is also your first time? Why do you opt for other people's left overs?











Baby mamma



Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 19-year-old girl and I have my boyfriend who is always telling me that he wantx a baby with me but am not ready to be a mother. What can I do?



They say these days babies get babies. Do you want to be a baby while you are still your mother's baby? I do not think so. Did this man even test himself for HIV? Do you want to get sick and bring a sick baby into the world? And guess what? That man will run far away and leave you to fend for yourself and your child. Is this what you want for your life?







Still young



Dear Auntie Nangy



I met a guy from our village that am dating with now. I love him and he loves me too but I'm losing hope. He said that he wants to have sex with me to produce a baby but I said no, I am still young. What can I do now?



Leave that man in the village because his head is in the village. Girls are no longer supposed to play like baby-making machines. Girls must run the world; we must become presidents and leaders and have children when we want to, when we can afford to and when we have to.



Love is a problem



Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 19 years old. I am dating a guy of 21. He loves me and I love him too but the problem is this: when he sees me he cries… I don't know what is wrong with him… please help me.



That right there is a sign of a weak man. Do you want a cry baby around you for the rest of your life? If he is crying now what will he do when you have children? Do you want the father to cry when his children cry? No, you do not want that. So get rid of him.

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