Auntie Nangy

I want to quit Dear Auntie Nangy I am 24 and I work with bad people. They are always shouting at each other or fighting. The boss is hardly at work, because he has to travel a lot and the woman he left in charge just sits in her office all day and does nothing to stop the fights. I can’t stand it anymore. I want to quit and find another job. Please tell me what I should do. Maybe you should talk to the woman in charge. Tell her how di­ cult it is to operate in such terrible working conditions. She simply has to understand that dealing with conflict, rather than avoiding it, is crucial. When conflict is mismanaged, it can harm any relationship. But when handled in a respectful and positive way, conflict provides an opportunity for growth, ultimately strengthening the bond between people. Conflict arises from differences. When people are upset, the words they use rarely convey the issues and needs at the heart of the problem. When we listen for what is felt as well as said, we connect more deeply to our own needs and emotions, and to those of other people. Listening in this way also strengthens us, informs us, and makes it easier for others to hear us. Simple non-verbal signals such as a calm tone of voice, a reassuring touch, or an interested or concerned facial expression can go a long way toward relaxing a tense exchange. Give it some time and see if there is any change. If not, then maybe it would be best to start looking for another job. He’s a cheater Dear Auntie Nangy, My boyfriend is a cheater. He gets calls from other women but then he doesn’t answer, he just sends them SMSes. But when my phone rings he always wants to argue and says that it could be other men calling me. I’ve told him that it’s over so many times but he won’t accept it. He always apologises and says I’m the only lady he prefers, he even says that even if he does cheat, he knows that I am his. Auntie, what do you think I should do? I think he’s using me and I want to leave him but he just won’t accept it. Of course he’s using you and it seems that you are not really trying very hard to get out of this bad relationship. How can he not accept it if you tell him that you don’t want to see him? What part of “it’s over” doesn’t he understand? Be firm and ignore all his attempts to contact you.