Auntie Nangy

Dear Auntie Nangy, I gave a friend of mine money a while ago which he promised to give back instantly but now, its five months later and he doesn't even talk to me anymore. I really don't know what to do with this person. Please help me.



Yes, the issue of money is a very emotional one. What I learned the hard way is that one should never loan out books or money to friends. It has caused wars and broken friendships. Demand your money back or take something of theirs that is to the value of your money. And have a frank conversation with your friend and ask them to respect you by kindly returning your money back.



Dirty situation



Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a friend who is very dirty. He smells dirty, has bad breath; he wears his clothes over often and always looks like he didn't bath. He even shows up in yesterday's clothes. I am saying this because it reflects badly on me and he also makes me uncomfortable. The funny thing is he always talks about how other people are dirty while he too is dirty. How do I tell him without breaking up our friendship or insulting him?



There is never a right way of breaking this kind of news to your friend. If you do not do something, he will never know that there is something wrong with him. I strongly believe that if you tell him he will appreciate you more because chances are, he is unaware of his problem. Sometimes these are medical problems. Bad breath can occasionally stem from small stones that form in the tonsils and are covered with bacteria that produce odour. You really need to be sensitive as to how you approach him. Do not do it in public or in a humiliating manner. If he can identify other people as dirty then he must know that he doesn't smell like roses.



Small penis issues



Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 28-year-old guy. I have everything a person would want like a job, own house and a car. The only thing is I have a small penis and because of this I have a problem with being in a relationship for more than two months. Please help me Auntie. It's not that bad but my parents are asking when I will bring a wife to them. My confidence and ego are starting to get damaged.



Oh my son. It is unfortunate that we are born the way. You have what is known as a micro penis. There are many pills one can take or injections, but these are short-term solutions. The only way to help you is get it done surgically. It is expensive but if you are really miserable then you can Google it and see which surgeon is closest to you. Again, be watchful because there are many fake and unqualified doctors who are on the hunt for people like you to have as victims. Why don't you seek psychological help too? There are different types of women and there are those who don't mind about the size of a penis. If the ones who have come your way are unhappy it could be because they were not your Mrs Right. Be patient and hang on.







Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 25-year-old lady and I live in Windhoek. When I arrived I joined a church which my family warned me to stay away from. I didn't listen because I really felt at home. Three years later I realised that the church is not right for me and I want to go back home but I don't know how to face my family and or if they will accept me. Please help me reach out and connect with my family.



First of all thank God you realised that the church is not right as your family was warning you. We all make mistakes but the lesson comes from having learned from the mistakes. I am pretty sure your family will accept you. They might be upset but eventually they will put this behind them. Ask someone else that you trust to talk to them for you or for them to be a mediator when you break the news.