Auntie Nangy

Jealous boyfriend

Dear Auntie Nangy

My boyfriend is jealous of me chatting with my male friends… he even stopped me from chatting with my ex, am sick of his jealousy please help.

You are your own person, and should be allowed to talk to whomever you want. You being sick of his jealousy means you have probably discussed it with him before. It’s probably time to break up and find someone who won’t make you sick. Talk to your friends who know him better than I do. I am assuming the reason you turned to me is that they probably believe this is an unhealthy relationship. The ball is in your court and you have the final say.

My boyfriend’s a dad

Dear Auntie Nangy

I’m a 21-year-old student that is in a month-old relationship with a guy with three kids. It kind of bothers me. I don’t want to make it an issue but I don’t see myself with the person. Lately, I’ve met someone else and have feelings for this guy. What do I do, I don’t want to hurt anyone.

Break up with the guy you are not in love with, and whose three kids you have a problem with. You deserve to be with someone you truly love, and he doesn’t need to be kept hanging on. It really isn’t rocket science. With this said I know you now know what to do and you better act fast.

Private parts are bothersome

Dear Auntie Nangy

Im a girl, 17. I have a problem of white stuff coming from my private parts and I have experienced this for so long now. What could be the cause of this? Please help.

There could be many reasons, you will only know for sure after seeing a gynaecologist. If you struggle with accessing a gynaecologist, you can go to a public health facility. See a health professional as soon as possible otherwise you will keep stressing. Overall many products being produced today are very bad for a vagina and if you for instance use scented pads or panty liners, this could be the outcome. Stop using scented products if you are and see the results.

15, dating a man 28

Auntie Nangy

I am 15 and dating a 28-year-old man. Can I still go on with him? I love him and he loves me too… but is he not too big for me?

If you and this 28 year-old man are in a sexual relationship, then this is a classic case of statutory rape. Even in the absence of a sexual relationship, at 15 you know every little about love and have a lot of living, learning and exploring to do. Surely, at 28 he holds significant power over you, and the power dynamic is dangerously skewed, making you more vulnerable to abuse and manipulation. You should be spending time with people your age and do the things that young teens do. This man is a pervert for being with you and this relationship is not only wrong, but probably criminal too.

Is the sex bad?

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am a 23-year-old guy. I have a problem with my girlfriend. After sex she likes to shot (sic) at me badly and I don’t know what is wrong. But she pretends all is well in bed! What must I do?

Huuuuuu shots fired…. Joking. Auntie has been sitting here for the last hour trying to figure out what “shot at me badly” means. Ask what is wrong, if she does not tell you and it really does affect you, then it’s probably time to end the relationship and find a new girlfriend. If you perhaps mean shout, there could be something you are not doing right. All in all, you all need to sit down and talk about it.

Must convince his parents

Dear Auntie Nangy

I am 16 and I have a problem. There is a guy who I really like and he likes me to. We would like to take things to another level but I don’t know his parents. How can I prove to them that we belong together?

You are not looking to date his parents; you are looking to date him. Chill, you are not walking down the aisle just yet child. You are out here jumping many, many steps. This kind of desperation will get you dumped before the relationship even started.