aunty Nangy

I have low libido
Dear Aunty Nangy
Help me please. My problem is I have low sex drive. I don’t have any feelings when it comes to sex. I rejected my man because nothing happens from my side. Totally nothing. Only the man enjoys that moment. Even if we kept trying, I didn’t enjoy it.
The problem that you have can be caused by health challenges, diseases, medicine you are taking or you have taken before, your lifestyle, surgery, fatigue, menopause, pregnancy and breastfeeding, or mental stress. Some of the problems are temporary or after some time things will get back to normal. Many women may require help from a medical expert. So before you start blaming your partner find out if you are not affected by some of the causes that I have mentioned. In your mind right now you already have a negative feeling about sex and that is a problem. It will be helpful to talk about your problem with your partner. If you are having a bad time emotionally this can also reduce your sexual appetite so stop worrying and you will get your sex drive back.


He dumped me
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a 19-year-old girl. My boyfriend broke up with me in May. He didn’t tell me the reason why he decided to end the affair. When I ask him all he says is ‘I don’t know’. I want him back. Whenever I text him he doesn’t reply. Sometimes he sends me text messages like he still loves me and I tells me that I am always looking good. Please help me.
I feel for you my dear and I know how it feels when the man you love disappoints you. He chose to leave and from what you have said you didn’t do anything wrong. My advice is, give yourself time to get over the bad feeling and move on. You are too young to sound so hopeless.

Does he love me?
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a girl aged 17and I am dating an 18-year-old boy. I really love him but he does not respond to my messages on time. When I am far, he tells me that he loves me but when we meet he does not show his love. Is this love Aunty?
One thing that you should know is women mature earlier than men. You are both too young to take relationships too seriously. Both of you must be in school and I think that is where you should put more effort and dedication. With good education and a decent career you will get a man who will cherish and love you genuinely when you are mature enough.
My friend’s ex made me pregnant
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a 19-year-old girl. My problem is I fell pregnant and the guy who made me pregnant is my friend’s ex-boyfriend. The thing is, she also took my first boyfriend from me but she is no longer with him. After she took my guy is when I also took her ex and now I am going to have his child. I really don’t know what to do because I love the guy a lot. Can you please help me Aunty.
This sounds like a cat fight and a big joke. If this is what friendship means to you two, I suggest that you revisit the meaning of friendship. Anyway you seem to be madly in love with your friend’s ex and if he loves you too then who can separate you? Enjoy the bliss and be good parents to your baby.


I am considering abortion
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am 17 years old and I have been dating a man who is 39 and he made me pregnant. I am afraid to tell my parents because this man is staying in our house. What can I do now? I am thinking of aborting the pregnancy.
Please do not abort that pregnancy. The child you are carrying is an innocent soul who could be the future president of Namibia. Abortion is still illegal and doing so might land you in prison and is that what you want? Tell your parents please they must know. You didn’t say what this man is thinking about your being pregnant so my advice is limited.