My family chops my money
Dear Aunty Nangy, I’m a boy aged 25 who is working. I have my account but I’m don’t manage to save because my family is always asking for money from me and I always get to the December holiday with zero money in my account. What must I do about this?
Young man you don’t have a problem but I think you are the problem. No one will take money from you unless you yourself take it out of your pocket or bank account. You are working for yourself and I don’t know whether the family members you are giving money are young or old. You are working hard for yourself and if you don’t look after your needs first you are the problem and not your relatives. Any sensible person will only give when they have money to spare. I am advising you to stop dishing out money to people who can work for themselves like you and start saving for your December holiday now.
HIV positive
Dear Aunty Nangy, I am 17 years old and I am dating a guy who is 19 years old. We have been dating for four years now. I love him very much but he is HIV positive. Whenever he asks me to have sex with him he doesn’t want to use condoms. Help me aunty, I really love him very much.
Firstly, I feel you have been very careless with your youth. You are only 17 years-old now and you said you have been in love with this guy for four years. What it means is you have been in a romantic relationship since the age of 13 and that is not good. You are having unprotected sex with a man who is HIV positive? I am not saying you cannot fall in love with an HIV positive person but you must use condoms so that you do not pass it on to others. I hope you have gone for testing and my advice to you is, if the guy does not want to use condoms when he knows he is HIV positive then he does not love you. Just leave him.
I love him but far
Dear Aunty Nangy, I am 18 and I have a boyfriend who is 21. We love each other but we are far away from each other. I miss him but he is a long distance away for me and for me to go to him. What should i do?
True love is blind to long distances. All I am saying is it does not matter that your boyfriend is far away from you. If you truly love each other the distance should make your love stronger. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and this what the long distance is doing to your relationship. When people are in love and they are living away from each other, you miss each other more and the love grows. When you meet you have no time to quarrel or argue but to kiss and hug and enjoy to the full each other’s company. Hang in there and just love that man. The distance will make your love grow.
Am I pregnant?
Dear Aunty Nangy, I have a problem with my periods. In December they started on the 3rd then stopped on the 6th then they started again on the 28 and ended on the 31st of December. Now my question is I pregnant or not? Today I woke up and started vomiting. What’s the problem here? I am very afraid.
It is difficult for me to give you advice. The best thing for you to do is to go the clinic and take a pregnancy test. There are many other reasons that can cause a woman to bleed on and off and some of them can be serious health problems. See your doctor as soon as possible.
I don’t want to sleep with him
Dear Aunty Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend. He wants me to have sex with him but I don’t want. What can I do?
Your question leaves me with a lot of questions too. I don’t know how old you are and you didn’t say why you don’t want to have sex with your boyfriend. What I think you need to do is to sit down with your boyfriend and explain why you don’t want to have sex with him. No one can force you to sleep with a man and not even the man who wants to sleep with you. You are the one in charge and just don’t do it if you don’t want to.
Young man you don’t have a problem but I think you are the problem. No one will take money from you unless you yourself take it out of your pocket or bank account. You are working for yourself and I don’t know whether the family members you are giving money are young or old. You are working hard for yourself and if you don’t look after your needs first you are the problem and not your relatives. Any sensible person will only give when they have money to spare. I am advising you to stop dishing out money to people who can work for themselves like you and start saving for your December holiday now.
HIV positive
Dear Aunty Nangy, I am 17 years old and I am dating a guy who is 19 years old. We have been dating for four years now. I love him very much but he is HIV positive. Whenever he asks me to have sex with him he doesn’t want to use condoms. Help me aunty, I really love him very much.
Firstly, I feel you have been very careless with your youth. You are only 17 years-old now and you said you have been in love with this guy for four years. What it means is you have been in a romantic relationship since the age of 13 and that is not good. You are having unprotected sex with a man who is HIV positive? I am not saying you cannot fall in love with an HIV positive person but you must use condoms so that you do not pass it on to others. I hope you have gone for testing and my advice to you is, if the guy does not want to use condoms when he knows he is HIV positive then he does not love you. Just leave him.
I love him but far
Dear Aunty Nangy, I am 18 and I have a boyfriend who is 21. We love each other but we are far away from each other. I miss him but he is a long distance away for me and for me to go to him. What should i do?
True love is blind to long distances. All I am saying is it does not matter that your boyfriend is far away from you. If you truly love each other the distance should make your love stronger. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and this what the long distance is doing to your relationship. When people are in love and they are living away from each other, you miss each other more and the love grows. When you meet you have no time to quarrel or argue but to kiss and hug and enjoy to the full each other’s company. Hang in there and just love that man. The distance will make your love grow.
Am I pregnant?
Dear Aunty Nangy, I have a problem with my periods. In December they started on the 3rd then stopped on the 6th then they started again on the 28 and ended on the 31st of December. Now my question is I pregnant or not? Today I woke up and started vomiting. What’s the problem here? I am very afraid.
It is difficult for me to give you advice. The best thing for you to do is to go the clinic and take a pregnancy test. There are many other reasons that can cause a woman to bleed on and off and some of them can be serious health problems. See your doctor as soon as possible.
I don’t want to sleep with him
Dear Aunty Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend. He wants me to have sex with him but I don’t want. What can I do?
Your question leaves me with a lot of questions too. I don’t know how old you are and you didn’t say why you don’t want to have sex with your boyfriend. What I think you need to do is to sit down with your boyfriend and explain why you don’t want to have sex with him. No one can force you to sleep with a man and not even the man who wants to sleep with you. You are the one in charge and just don’t do it if you don’t want to.
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