How to love
Gone are the days when so much of what our grandparents told us we can still apply. From the way we dress, to the way we communicate, and even the way we express our love or whom we choose to love – everything has changed. We live in a generation of not being loved but we still make it seem like we are together… sometimes. New-age relationships or millennial dating has transcended the way relationships work or at least the dynamics of traditional relationships. Some youth are no longer interested in traditional and committed relationships. Not utterly healthy, but, do we blame the youth? Others opt to love the same sex, and it is perfectly fine.
Our generation takes pride in the amount of girls or men they date. As a safeguard and as a way to limit the disappointments of dating in this new age and due to a general lack of trust, more and more young people opt to enter open relationships in order to test whether their partners are going to be faithful to them or not. When people enter open relationships they consider the benefits instead of the challenges. Part of the reason why many opt for these relationships is because they believe they will get what they want without difficulty, or any effort at all. In an open relationship you do not belong to the person you are seeing, you are not exclusive to them but you can still see them. You can date and mingle with any other person that you want without the baggage of being in a relationship. Quite frankly, open relationships are messy and highly unpredictable but a few people make it work for them.
I personally think such relationships are caused by people not knowing their worth or who don't love themselves.
The underlying reasons vary for entering into such relationships with anyone, include the fear of getting one's heartbroken by someone or not having time to enter into a real relationship. At the end of the day, it is about being safe and true to you. Whomever you choose to love and how to love them is totally up to you. Get out of your shell and demand what you want instead of getting what someone thinks is right for you.
[email protected]
June Shimuoshili
Our generation takes pride in the amount of girls or men they date. As a safeguard and as a way to limit the disappointments of dating in this new age and due to a general lack of trust, more and more young people opt to enter open relationships in order to test whether their partners are going to be faithful to them or not. When people enter open relationships they consider the benefits instead of the challenges. Part of the reason why many opt for these relationships is because they believe they will get what they want without difficulty, or any effort at all. In an open relationship you do not belong to the person you are seeing, you are not exclusive to them but you can still see them. You can date and mingle with any other person that you want without the baggage of being in a relationship. Quite frankly, open relationships are messy and highly unpredictable but a few people make it work for them.
I personally think such relationships are caused by people not knowing their worth or who don't love themselves.
The underlying reasons vary for entering into such relationships with anyone, include the fear of getting one's heartbroken by someone or not having time to enter into a real relationship. At the end of the day, it is about being safe and true to you. Whomever you choose to love and how to love them is totally up to you. Get out of your shell and demand what you want instead of getting what someone thinks is right for you.
[email protected]
June Shimuoshili
Comments
Namibian Sun
No comments have been left on this article