Focus on yourself

Many a time we deny ourselves happiness because we choose to concentrate on what is happening in other people’s lives. We tend not to give ourselves enough time to plan our future and get distracted by the progress other people are making in their lives. This week I am going to share ideas on how one can focus on his or her life without worrying about the progress other people are making, and I want to help you to realise your own greatness.

There are so many advantages of focusing on yourself and your own happiness. By focusing on yourself you are able to figure out how you will tackle a lot of issues in your life because you will take time to properly examine what is going on in your life. Moreover, by focusing on yourself you will spend your resources to meet your needs because you will allocate your time and resources to achieve all the desires of your life. By doing this you will not feel any pressure or some kind of deadlines that you must meet and thus, you will have time to complete tasks with ease. It is not selfish to take time to make you happy. In fact it is critical. Certain accomplishments and satisfaction do not come from your family or even your friends. If you are not actively working on your own happiness, I guarantee you; you will be missing out on a lot of the experiences that make you whole. Spending time alone also unleashes an independence element in a person. It makes one to be confident about themselves and removes the dependency syndrome that many people suffer from.

We have to acknowledge that different things are going to happen to different people at different times. Just because your colleague is going to graduate this year and start making money does not mean you should start borrowing funds to start a business so that you can start making money too. As stated earlier, different events are going to unfold at different times in your life and that of others. Learn to cherish the life you are leading now and work hard to attain the goals that you have set for yourself. Minding your own business provides you with enough time to work on your objectives and to be a better person. You cannot be progressive in life if you always want to know what the next person is doing. If you want to keep up with how others are progressing in their life, use it as a motivation to do better in your life. Healthy competition is okay. Just learn to be genuinely happy for other people and avoid wishing others bad things. Avoid social media, especially Instagram, Twitter and SnapChat. They are great information-sharing tools but these social networks also make you envious. Not only this, but these applications also take up most of your time because instead of working or studying, a lot of people waste time going through friends’ timelines to see who and what is trending. A lot of people do not have knowledge about themselves because of social media. A lot of young people tend to mould their characters based on what people on social media say about them. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and other social networks should not be used as a benchmark in or of your life. They are applications and we should not let them dictate how we should live our lives.

Do not get me wrong, I am not suggesting that you become antisocial, the point I am trying to bring across is that let us be independent and not allow society to dictate our happiness and growth. What society has deemed appropriate does not necessarily accommodate everyone and this is okay because you don’t have to like everyone. If you do not like something; do not be bothered by that and similarly if you do not like someone, do not worry yourself, just concentrate on your life. There is someone for everyone and it is not up to you decide who should befriend who. Just because you do not get along with someone does not mean everyone does and just because you do not like something does not mean no one else. So, avoid such unnecessary stress and focus on yourself and your happiness. Take some time to examine your life, identify aspects in your life that require your attention and dedicate enough time and energy to polish those aspects and by doing this you will appease yourself and will make your life so much happier.

Michael Kayunde

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