Drugs, alcohol fuel sex experimentation

Drugs, alcohol and just plain boredom are leading Namibians down dark roads filled with sexual experimentation. A Windhoek nurse reveals that an increasing number of Namibians are seeking medical attention after their lovemaking adventures go horribly wrong. The nurse, who works for a private hospital, says: “It is mostly women who get tied up and beaten, and those kinds of things, during sex. There have also been some gay guys I have heard about, but I have never treated or assisted them. Only the ladies,” she says. The nurse reveals to that the most recent incident involved a 24-year-old woman who hurt her right wrist while being handcuffed during sex. She explains that the young lady seemed to have a bruise on her neck that indicated that she was strangled. “At most private hospitals, they don’t want to assist patients who look like they have been assaulted, as these hospitals and its doctors don’t want to get involved in court cases, and most of the time these ladies are desperate for medical assistance, so they explain to you that it was during sex and consensual fun, so they have no intention of pressing charges,” she says. She adds that the lady later revealed that her boyfriend likes handcuffing her and strangling her during sex. “They lady even told me how exciting it was and said that they first saw it in a pornographic movie. I was shocked that she was not even embarrassed to tell the complete story. Almost all of them say they first saw it in a pornographic movie,” she says. The nurse tells tjil that some of her colleagues have revealed assisting people who have been hurt from being tied up in weird positions. She has also heard horror stories about how some patients came for treatment after they were whipped during sex. “These girls are always how on drugs and always have these cigarette burns, and most of them are with foreign boyfriends,” she says. Tjil spoke Namibia’s leading psychologist Dr Shaun Whittaker, who was cautious in his answers. He says there are people who need to be sadistic or violent during sex in order to experience pleasure. “Although Namibia is a fairly conservative society, there could be people who engage in fairly unusual sex,” he says. Whittaker adds that while he hasn’t heard of such incidents in Namibia, he would imagine that the open access to pornography could play a big role in the rise of these kinds of sexual acts. Whittaker said that pornography often reveals an unrealistic image of sex and intimacy. He says we should be careful not to generalise, as new trends are often contained to a certain group of people. WINDHOEK GORDON JOSEPH