Auntie Nangy
Erectile dysfunction
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my penis. These days, whenever I try to have sex it fails to reach full erection and when it does I ejaculate within in a minute. Please help.
Oh boy, this is a bit of a tough situation. Auntie can imagine how hard this might be for you. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by physical problems, psychological factors or a combination of both. I know it's hard for guys to discuss erectile problems, but treatments exist. Auntie advises you to see a medical doctor, and don't be shy to describe the problem. Auntie wishes you luck. Hopefully soon, you and your special someone will have no further problems.
No job, no money
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem… I am orphan… I don't have a job and I don't have money. What must I do now?
Oh my sweet child, how lonely and full of despair it must be to be orphaned and with no ability to provide for yourself. While you might feel achingly alone, remember there are people willing to help and you too have abilities that you might not be aware of. Take a piece of paper and write down all your strengths, passions and abilities. Think of ways you can turn it into an income-generating activity. Also, update your CV, reach out to people to help you in that regard, apply for anything and everything. Talk to activists in your community, volunteer for NGOs in your community, they might assist in the long run. You need to go out there and find the opportunities. If you are still a minor, approach the welfare ministry for assistance. Auntie is right behind you cheering you onto and speaking life into your dreams.
Too shy to ask
Dear Auntie Nangy, There is this girl I like and I am afraid of proposing to her… please what should I do?
Afraid of proposing? Oh you boys make Auntie so angry. There was a time Auntie had her eyes firmly set on this guy from down the street. He took so long; Auntie was convinced he weren't interested. By the time he finally had the courage to ask Auntie out; Auntie already had way too many boyfriends on speed dial and was struggling to juggle an already busy schedule. Lesson here, life is a fast-moving train, speak up, she might just be waiting on you. Also, what do you have to lose apart from a broken heart as a result of rejection, a broken heart that would eventually heal itself.
Dominating colleague
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem that I'm not sure of how to fix. I have made friends with a lady at work and that is fine. The problem comes when I have to do projects with her. Auntie, I just feel like she takes over everything and suffocates me. The sad part is that she doesn't see the problem in this and even wants us to be assigned on more projects. I would like to remain friends with her but I'm scared of the day I will open my mouth and then, I will hurt her feelings. What must I do?
You don't need to be mean, rude or lose a friendship to be professional. Tell her how you feel, and that her actions reflect badly on her. If you two have crossed a line as friends, then it would be wise to choose to not work on the same projects. Making friends is great, but ultimately you come to work, and at work, that's your number one priority. Speak up!
Cyber-bullies
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am being bullied on the internet and I don't know how to handle it. It gets to me some days and others I am able to ignore it. The people bullying me are those that I know but they don't know that they are hurting me. Please help.
Social media can be such a cruel place. People have become so numb to the human lives behind the post and the comments. You need to prioritise your own sanity by limiting your social media activity and not interacting with people who are cruel or rude. Sites such as Facebook offer privacy settings, unfriend and block those you deem toxic. I know it's hard, but try not read comments and post about you. Also, if it I indeed hurtful, also approach law enforcement for assistance. Here is an imaginary hug from Auntie to you. Stay blessed.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my penis. These days, whenever I try to have sex it fails to reach full erection and when it does I ejaculate within in a minute. Please help.
Oh boy, this is a bit of a tough situation. Auntie can imagine how hard this might be for you. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by physical problems, psychological factors or a combination of both. I know it's hard for guys to discuss erectile problems, but treatments exist. Auntie advises you to see a medical doctor, and don't be shy to describe the problem. Auntie wishes you luck. Hopefully soon, you and your special someone will have no further problems.
No job, no money
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem… I am orphan… I don't have a job and I don't have money. What must I do now?
Oh my sweet child, how lonely and full of despair it must be to be orphaned and with no ability to provide for yourself. While you might feel achingly alone, remember there are people willing to help and you too have abilities that you might not be aware of. Take a piece of paper and write down all your strengths, passions and abilities. Think of ways you can turn it into an income-generating activity. Also, update your CV, reach out to people to help you in that regard, apply for anything and everything. Talk to activists in your community, volunteer for NGOs in your community, they might assist in the long run. You need to go out there and find the opportunities. If you are still a minor, approach the welfare ministry for assistance. Auntie is right behind you cheering you onto and speaking life into your dreams.
Too shy to ask
Dear Auntie Nangy, There is this girl I like and I am afraid of proposing to her… please what should I do?
Afraid of proposing? Oh you boys make Auntie so angry. There was a time Auntie had her eyes firmly set on this guy from down the street. He took so long; Auntie was convinced he weren't interested. By the time he finally had the courage to ask Auntie out; Auntie already had way too many boyfriends on speed dial and was struggling to juggle an already busy schedule. Lesson here, life is a fast-moving train, speak up, she might just be waiting on you. Also, what do you have to lose apart from a broken heart as a result of rejection, a broken heart that would eventually heal itself.
Dominating colleague
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem that I'm not sure of how to fix. I have made friends with a lady at work and that is fine. The problem comes when I have to do projects with her. Auntie, I just feel like she takes over everything and suffocates me. The sad part is that she doesn't see the problem in this and even wants us to be assigned on more projects. I would like to remain friends with her but I'm scared of the day I will open my mouth and then, I will hurt her feelings. What must I do?
You don't need to be mean, rude or lose a friendship to be professional. Tell her how you feel, and that her actions reflect badly on her. If you two have crossed a line as friends, then it would be wise to choose to not work on the same projects. Making friends is great, but ultimately you come to work, and at work, that's your number one priority. Speak up!
Cyber-bullies
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am being bullied on the internet and I don't know how to handle it. It gets to me some days and others I am able to ignore it. The people bullying me are those that I know but they don't know that they are hurting me. Please help.
Social media can be such a cruel place. People have become so numb to the human lives behind the post and the comments. You need to prioritise your own sanity by limiting your social media activity and not interacting with people who are cruel or rude. Sites such as Facebook offer privacy settings, unfriend and block those you deem toxic. I know it's hard, but try not read comments and post about you. Also, if it I indeed hurtful, also approach law enforcement for assistance. Here is an imaginary hug from Auntie to you. Stay blessed.
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