Auntie Nangy

Her coloured family doesn’t approve Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a black guy dating a coloured girl and we are very in love. When she introduced me to her family, I found out that her mother doesn’t approve of our relationship. My girlfriend tried explaining to her about our relationship but as it turns out, her mother doesn’t like me because of my colour. Now we only meet behind bushes. What should I do now because I don’t like meeting in dark corners. Maybe you should make a point of meeting the mother in person so that she can see the kind of person that you really are. Visit your girlfriend at her home regularly. Meeting her behind the bushes would further antagonise the mother and she will never trust you! He just holds my hand Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m a 20-year-old girl in love with a 38-year-old guy. I met him when I was at high school and that’s where I fell in love with him. He did good things for me at high school and still does. Whenever I have a problem I can count on him. I’m at university now and whenever he comes to Windhoek I go visit him and he likes holding my hand when we walk around. The problem is that he never tells me he loves me. What should I do to get him to ask me to be his girlfriend? It seems to me that this is a genuinely good guy that does not expect anything from you for all the good things he does for you, but it may be that he just has platonic feelings for you and is not in love with you. The fact that he holds your hand is probably just an expression of his a_ ection for you and you should not take it as a sign that he is in love with you. If you tell him that you are in love with him you might ruin the relationship that the two of you share. You must also be very honest with yourself and sort out your feelings and make sure that you love him and that you’re not just infatuated with him, because he is so good to you. There are a lot of issues at stake here and I think that you should not rush into anything but just take your time and see how things develop. Can I get HIV from licking? Dear Auntie Nangy, Can I get infected with HIV if I lick a girl’s private parts? Having oral sex with a HIV positive person can infect you but only if you have an open sore or wound as the virus can only be transmitted from vaginal or seminal fl uid into the bloodstream through such a wound and not through the skin. I am always early Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 29, but whenever I masturbate, I ejaculate early before I’m even satisfi ed. I need help. You are experiencing what is known as premature ejaculation. It is characterised by a lack of voluntary control over ejaculation. If you masturbate extensively, it could be a contributing factor so do it less often, it might help. How does a lady impress her man? Dear Auntie Nangy, How should a lady act when she’s with her man and what should a lady do to impress her man? What do you mean by ‘impress her man’, is it sexually, at home or what? Why should you act di_ erently when you are with your man? Why don’t you just be yourself or did he fall in love with the person you were pretending to be? There is no specifi c role or way a woman should act with her man but it depends on what brought the two of you together and what you have in common. We never kiss or have sex Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 25 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for fi ve months now. We both don’t have any children and we are far from each other. He calls and SMSes me that he loves me and he meets me twice a month for one or two hours. We hold each other but we never kiss or have sex. He told me he wants to have a baby with me, but I don’t know if he really loves me. Talk about things that are bothering you in the relationship so that you can work through it. If he says he loves you, and he treats you well, then it’s probably true. If the fact that the two of you have never kissed or had sex is bothering you, then let him know. I want her to abort the baby Dear Auntie Nangy, My girlfriend just told me that she is pregnant and I love her. The only problem is that she hangs out with men and even goes to eat out with them. I’m worried that she may be cheating on me, even though she says they are her friends and that I should trust her. I’m now confused and just want her to abort the baby and end our relationship. Is it the right decision? Aborting a baby without a valid reason is illegal in Namibia, so that should be out of the question. The two of you need to communicate and she also needs to consider your feelings when she decides to go out with these men. If it’s innocent as she says, she won’t have a problem with you tagging along on these dates. If you are not sure if the baby is yours, you can always go for a paternity test.