Auntie Nangy

He’s silent Dear Auntie Nangy I am a 20-year-old girl. I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have a son but he doesn’t like to SMSes or call me. Even when I am with him, he just says “hello” and then keeps quiet. Sometimes I want to talk to him but I am afraid, because he doesn’t like to laugh. Was he the silent type when you met or did he quieten down over time? For some women the silent, brooding type is very sexy but you obviously don’t think so. You simply have to tell him how you feel and ask him directly why is not talking to you. If he still doesn’t respond, check his pulse. I am only joking. You, and only you, can make the decision whether you are willing to accept him the way he is or whether you want to move on. Communication, humour and the ability to share feelings and emotions is an important aspect of every relationship. Am I a bad friend? Dear Auntie Nangy I spend five to six hours with my best friend per day. Every time my boyfriend comes to get me she says I am a bad friend and that’s not what she calls friendship, but we are together every day. Am I being a bad friend? Of course you are not a bad friend, she is. This girl is the possessive, selfish type. It is very unhealthy for any relationship and friendship with someone this controlling. I suggest you start seeing her less. Explain to her that you feel smothered in this friendship and that you - as a friend- would really appreciate it if she could loosen the grip and relax. If she gets upset and keeps on telling you that you are a bad friend then you have to consider your options. I don’t think he loves me Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a boyfriend and I love him, but I don’t think he loves me anymore. He does not reply to my SMSes and I am suspecting that he is still with his ex-girlfriend. He told me they broke up, but I have a feeling he’s still with her. When someone does not reply to your SMSes it does not mean that he doesn’t love you anymore. He might have been busy or he didn’t have credit when he received your SMS. You should only worry when he never replies and you don’t hear anything from him at all. About your suspicions, ask him to be honest with you so that you can have peace of mind.