My husband has a gambling problem

I cannot tell you what to do as that can only be your choice. What Auntie can do however is give you information regarding gambling addiction that might help you make the right decision. Gambling addiction is a mental health problem that is understood to be one of many kinds of impulse-control problems a person may suffer from. It is important to understand that there is usually no one specific cause for compulsive gambling but is understood to be the result of a combination of biological vulnerabilities, ways of thinking and social stressors. It is often very difficult for a person that suffers from this condition to be honest with him/herself about the problem and seeing a therapist or psychologist can help you identify the underlying reasons and find a solution. Seeing a therapist does not mean you are weak or can’t handle your problems. Therapy is for people who are smart enough to realise they need help. It can give you tools and support for reframing your thoughts that will last a lifetime. Harmful effects that compulsive gambling can have on the individual include financial problems ranging from high debt, bankruptcy or poverty, to legal problems resulting from theft to prostitution, to wanting, attempting or completing suicide. The biggest step in treatment is realising you have a problem with gambling. It takes tremendous strength and courage to own up to this, especially if you have lost a lot of money and strained or broke relationships along the way. Don’t despair, and don’t try to go it alone. Many others have been in your shoes and have been able to break the habit. Overcoming a gambling addiction or problem is never easy, but recovery is possible if you stick with treatment and seek support. You can also follow some steps to help you like the following: If you have an urge to gamble stop what you are doing and call someone, think about the consequences to your actions, tell yourself to stop thinking about gambling, and find something else to do immediately. Get rid of your credit cards, let someone else be in charge of your money, have the bank make automatic payments for you, and keep a limited amount of cash on you at all times. Schedule enjoyable recreational time for yourself that has nothing to do with gambling, find time for relaxation, and plan outings with your family. Distract yourself with another activity, such as cleaning your house, going to the gym, or watching TV. Tell the gambling establishments you frequent that you have a gambling problem and ask them to restrict you from betting at their casinos and establishments. Call a trusted family member or meet a friend for coffee. If you aren’t able to resist the gambling craving, don’t be too hard on yourself or use it as an excuse to give up. Overcoming a gambling addiction is a tough process. You may slip from time to time but the important thing is to learn from your mistakes and continue working towards recovery.