Aunty Nangy

Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a 21-year-old girl and my boyfriend is 25. I love him so much and he says he loves me too. But the problem is, he does not show me his love, he has not given me anything since we started dating, but he is a teacher. Does this boy love me really?

You did not tell me for how long you have been in love. You must be careful and understand what being in love really means. True love is not shown by gifts in the form of money, cell phones or other material things. Many women seem to think that if a boyfriend buys those gifts and gives money, it is a sign of true love. This is not true. I am also worried that you want your boyfriend to give you things but my question to you is what you have done for your boyfriend to show him that you love him? True love is balanced. If you expect your man to be the one to spoil you then you are lost. If you both love each other you also give each other surprise presents and not wait for only your boyfriend to give you something. It takes two to tango.


Dear Aunty Nangy,
I have a boyfriend and I am older than him. He is 21 and I am 25. I love him so much. Is it because I am bigger than him? Please Aunty I need help urgently.

My dear, age is just but a number. Many couples are happily married or happily in relationships where the woman is older. Some men prefer older women because they say older women are more loving and they give motherly love to their partners. Remember, generally men want to be pampered like babies and this kind of spoiling comes from the mature ladies. Keep the fire burning baby.

I love him but he cheats
Dear Aunty Nangy
I really need help. I love my boyfriend so much but he is cheating on me and he always lies to me. Help me please, what can I do?

How are you missing it? It is very clear that this man does not love you if he is lies and is cheating you. You are wasting your time. Please pack your love bags and find a man who is serious and respects you.


Dear Aunty Nangy,
I’m 26 years old and I have never found true love up to today. I only get those guys who are just using me then go. I really need true love and I’m tired of sleeping with different guys every year.

You sound hopeless but don’t lose hope. Stop being negative and start thinking positively. Refuse to be used and dumped like a used condom. Have a positive attitude and yes, stop dishing it out to every Tom, Dick and Harry. Mr Right is waiting for you and if you look after yourself and respect your body you will soon find Mr Right.

Dear Aunty Nangy
I love my girlfriend but when she comes to me or we’re together she deletes SMSes even if you see or know that she has sent a message or received a message. When I have the phone no SMS comes through. I don’t know why she does this. Aunty, help me please.

I can see that you don’t trust your girlfriend at all and you are jealous. I think you are stressing yourself with small things. How do you know that she deleted the messages? Maybe she did not receive any messages. Trust your woman and enjoy the relationship.

Will I have baby?
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a 22-year-old virgin and my problem is I don’t have testicles. I used to ejaculate semen when I dreamed I was having sex and my penis is bent. Can I have kids and will it get in. Help me please!

You can get the best advice from a doctor because Aunty is not an expert in that field. I know there is an operation that can be done to bring down your testicles because for healthy sperm production the scrotum must be outside the body because they need a lower temperature than the body temperature. When you say your penis is bent I cannot help much because I cannot ask you to show me. Is the bend very different from your brothers or friends because the penis itself if not straight? God created it with a natural curve that follows the curve of the vagina. Lastly, you said you are worried if your penis will go into the vagina. Any erect penis will go in so don’t worry. It is only a floppy one that will not.