March 2012

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Man found guilty of killing elderly woman

NAMPA - Windhoek

A Keetmanshoop resident accused of breaking into the house of an elderly woman there before fatally assaulting and robbing her, was found guilty in the Windhoek High Court on Monday. Read more about Man found guilty of killing elderly woman

Natau not part of ‘security strike’

Ellanie Smit - Windhoek
NOMHLE KANGOOTUI

The Namibia Transport and Allied Workers Union (Natau) has distanced itself from the planned nationwide strike by security workers of Namibia Independent Security Union (Nisu). Read more about Natau not part of ‘security strike’

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French lure Brits with Cape Town pics

The images of beautiful beaches accompanied by humorous slogans were meant to tempt British tourists over to France during the London Olympics. Read more about French lure Brits with Cape Town pics

Robber returns to crime scene for job

A man was arrested when he tried to get a job from the owners of the house he had robbed earlier in East London, according to a report on Tuesday. Read more about Robber returns to crime scene for job

I’m so insecure

Question: 

Dear Auntie Nangy,
I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 28. We have a long distance relationship but we are always in contact. The problem is that I get insecure if my boyfriend doesn’t SMS me for just one day. I just get wrong ideas but he tells me he loves me and will not cheat on me. Please help!

Answer: 

As you yourself realise the problem is not with your boyfriend but with yourself. Insecurity is a problem that you and only you can fix as this is a result of low self-esteem and self confidence. Sit down and be very honest with yourself and write down why you are so insecure. Is it because of something that happened in your past with people who did something that has made you feel unprotected and maybe broke your heart? Once you have identified this cause, you can start working on reinforcing your own self image in a positive way.
Get rid of all those negative feelings, just look in the mirror and what do you see? An absolutely, gorgeous, fantastic person that nobody will ever consider cheating on! You go, girl!

I don’t enjoy life

Question: 

Dear Auntie Nangy,
I don’t enjoy my life. If I kiss somebody I get small sores on my lips.

Answer: 

See a doctor as I’m sure that this is a problem that is easily treatable and then you will be able to enjoy life again.

I am addicted to gambling

Question: 

Dear Auntie Nangy,
I am addicted to gambling. Whenever I withdraw my money at the end of the month I just go and deposit it in gambling machines and I have nothing left. Please help me, Auntie.

Answer: 

Gambling addiction is a type of impulse-control disorder which means that you can’t control the impulse to gamble, even when you know your gambling is hurting yourself or your loved ones.

The fact that you admit you have a problem is the first step to treatment and gambling addiction is treatable. It takes tremendous strength and courage to admit you have a problem and for that you should congratulate yourself. You must realise that overcoming gambling addiction will not be easy but don’t despair and don’t try to do it alone. Many others had this problem and have
been able to break the habit. You can make some lifestyle changes to help you stop your addiction.

Before you gamble you make a conscious decision to gamble and you then have the choice to make the decision not to gamble. You need to stop what you’re doing and call someone, think about theconsequences of your actions, tell yourself to stop thinking about gambling and find something else to do immediately.

I know that this is not as easy as it sounds but there are practical things that youcan do that will help to keep you from gambling.

In the first place you need money to gamble, so get rid of credit and debit cards, let someone else take charge of your money and keep limited amounts of cash on you. Schedule enjoyable recreational time that has nothing to do with gambling and spend time with family and friends. Casinos also offer helplines and support for people with gambling addictions.

Should I leave him?

Question: 

Dear Auntie Nangy,
I need your advice, I am dating a 20-year-old guy and I’m 16. We are madly in love but the problem is that he got another girl pregnant and they live together. He said he is just waiting for the baby to be born then he’s moving out. Should I leave him or go on with the relationship?

Answer: 

Why would you want to be in a relationship with a guy who runs away from his responsibilities? Get out as fast as you can. This guy is a loser and the chances are very good that he will do to you what he did to that poor woman he just can’t wait to dump.

You should be out having fun with your friends and not having to worry about a relationship that has all the problems and responsibilities that go with having a boyfriend that has to deal with a lot of his own problems at this time in your life. You should concentrate on what is happening in your own life right now, with school and changes that you are going through, with friends and family and starting out on a wonderful journey that is still going to offer a lot of ups and downs. Don’t rush through your youth.

When is the right time?

Question: 

Dear Auntie Nangy
I am 25 and in love with a 29-year-old guy. We have been together almost two years now and now we decided to have a child. What is the right time for a lady to fall pregnant? Please, Auntie, I just want to know.

Answer: 

I am not sure what you want to know - are your asking what is the right age or what time during the month? There is no specific age that could be seen as the right age. Of course you should be emotionally and financially stable enough to support a child and that can happen at any age.

I cannot tell you the best time during your monthly cycle, because it differs from woman to woman.

Forget everything you have heard about when pregnancy occurs. Researchers found that the potential for fertility exists on almost every day of a woman's menstrual cycle with the window of fertility to be even more unpredictable for teenagers. Even women with normally regular menstrual cycles should be advised that their fertile window can be significantly unpredictable.

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