March 2011

I want to answer the above related questions as one because each one contains a part pertaining to the other. Yes, it will be possible to fall pregnant. As the injection is long acting, it takes some time after the last injection for its effect on fertility to wear off and varies from woman to woman with some women taking six to eight months after the last injection before fertility returns. This delay is not related to the length of time you use this method of contraception for, in other words whether you used it for one month or ten years the effect will be the same. As for falling pregnant, there are many people in the world today who have great difficulty in falling pregnant and to guarantee conception is almost impossible. There is so much that relies on the timing being absolutely correct, as the female egg will only be available for fertilisation for a short period of time during the female cycle. The lifestyle that one leads will have a direct impact on your fertility for both men and women. People who are fit, or in good physical condition, eat a healthy well balanced diet will find it easier to conceive successfully. Smoking, use of drugs and alcohol will also have a direct impact on the reproductive system. Auntie thinks the very first thing that couples that are trying to fall pregnant must do is to both see a doctor to make sure that medically everything is in working order. Once that is sorted out you will need to know the basics of the female menstrual cycle, how to calculate the ovulation date and when to have sex in order to best help ensure conception. If you are unable to calculate your ovulation date, then just work around the average of fourteen days from the first day of your monthly cycle. The first day of your cycle is when you first start to menstruate. So day one is the day you begin to have discharge. It is very important to record this date as we will need it to calculate your estimated ovulation date. Days six to eleven are called ‘dry days’, as you are not menstruating nor are you fertile. Your body at this stage is simply preparing to release the egg. Days twelve to eighteen are the days when you will be at your most fertile. Your body will release the egg during the course of these six days, so this is the best time to be having sex if you are trying to conceive. So as you can see although it seems like falling pregnant is easy there are a lot of factors involved but it is important that you do not put too much pressure on yourself.

Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain and to make it work takes the utmost trust. Receiving calls at 03h00 in the morning from men while she thinks you are asleep does seem a little suspect, although it might be totally aboveboard and it might be that she really has a platonic friendship with her male friends. It is also not wrong for a girl to have only male friends but it does seem that you have your reservations as far as the whole situation is concerned. The only thing I can suggest is that you talk to her and tell her how you feel and see if you can resolve the problem. Good luck. I fell pregnant by mistake